I ran into a good friend the other day and asked how she was enjoying her summer. She’d moved into her new home just about the time I did my downsizing move, and I thought I’d commiserate with her about the trials and tribulations of settling into a new place. But she didn’t seem as stressed as I felt. In fact, she seemed downright relaxed. She told me that she’s spending summer on the “lazy train.”
And, oh my, do I want to buy a ticket! I love that metaphor, and the way the Lazy Train becomes a journey itself, a way to recharge. It’s not vague like “Say ‘no’ more often,” or “Travel a little less.” It immediately changed my mindset, and had me thinking, “You too, Mary, can be on the Lazy Train, so sit back and enjoy the ride.”
I’ve had grandchildren in and out this summer at our new home, and I’ve been watching them be lazy. They’re enjoying time off from school and having a fun and carefree summer. This doesn’t mean that they’re sitting around; it just means that they run when they want to, swim when the want to, curl up with a book when they want to, and just enjoy being kids. Really, they’re just enjoying being.
I want to be like them, and totally disconnect for the summer. Too often, we adults plan our relaxation — stuffing all our laziness and indulgence into a week or two out of town — so that we forget to just take it easy when we’re home.
Well I, for one, am going to give it a rest. I was just looking over the post that Mara wrote, and I’m going to take her advice. I’m going to entertain casually, picking produce from gardens and farmer’s markets, mixing uncomplicated cocktails, and rather than “entertaining my friends and family” (which sounds like work), I’m going to “enjoy my friends and family” (which sounds pretty relaxing).
I’m going to let the house just be and not stress about the lamp we need or the pictures that need to be hung. I’m going to enjoy being outside and taking time to recharge. I’m going to let all that stuff wait.
I’ve got a first-class ticket on the Lazy Train, and I’m not getting off until the conductor calls my station.
Any bets on how long I can stay in my seat?
Mary Spalding is a Nashville based interior designer with over 30 years of experience. She has overseen countless home revitalizations, renovations, and restorations. She can be reached with your projects and ideas at firstname.lastname@example.org.